Just wanted to stop in really quick to let you all know that this is the last post in this series. There have been 3 other posts in this series, check them out here: What Thanksgiving Is All About, 9 Days of Thankfulness, & The One Thing I’ll Always Be Thankful For. Make sure that you leave a comment or Hebah letting her know what you think of this post, I’m sure it would mean a lot to her.
I am beyond delighted to be writing for Megan Anne’s blog today, which I have been following for quite some time now. I’m Hebah, from www.hebahpervaiz.co.uk , and I’m relatively new to this community but am enjoying every moment of blogging so far! I write about a variety of topics over at my blog, mainly associated with lifestyle, well-being, and study.
Today, however, I am writing about something I consider to be hugely important. Gratitude – and specifically, how you can learn to implement it into your life.
But why, you might be wondering; why bother? I think the quote below – that I found off Pinterest – can explain better than I can.
Not being grateful for what we have keeps us always wanting more. We are never satisfied; our appetites become endless and we constantly wish for the next best thing rather than accepting and being grateful for what we are blessed with. I am sure everyone will have experienced the feeling of wishing for something unrealistic. Perhaps you were scrolling through your Instagram feed and felt a pang of jealousy at how perfect your old classmate’s life seems to be, or maybe you were driving to work early yesterday morning, wishing you had a better job… like your friend, who has it so easy.
It is so easy to fall into the trap of thinking that we have it the worst off because for some reason, we have a habit of comparing our lives to those who ‘have it better’ than us. This kind of comparison is deadly – you will never be able to be fully happy if you constantly keep comparing yourself or your life to someone else’s. This sort of negative mind-set will make you feel as if you are not good enough, and could do better. It’s so important to simply accept that some people may have achieved more than you, and rather than letting this discourage you, let it motivate you. And don’t let yourself be deluded by the fallacy that is social media – nobody has a perfect life, not even those Instagrammers with the put-together feeds or YouTubers with hundreds of thousands of subscribers, regardless of how it may appear!
By no means am I discouraging you from having goals! Goals are fantastic and are a great way to stay motivated – but rather than strive to compete and outdo everybody else, do it for your own sake and happiness otherwise it can be incredibly detrimental to your well-being.
HOW CAN YOU BE MORE GRATEFUL
- 3 Things You’re Grateful For
- Now, I’m not telling you to keep a gratitude journal (although that would be a fantastic idea!) because I know it’s hard to find time for it in between everything else. What you can do, however, is spend a minute each morning to think of a few things you are grateful for every morning and evening so you start and finish the day in a positive mood.
- Control Using Gratitude
- Whenever you are in a situation which is frustrating or is making you angry, think about the positives of the situation. It may seem impossible at the time but being in an angry state of mind will only make everything worse – for you, and the people around you, so do make an effort.
- Recognise Your Success
- Every time you achieve something – regardless of how minor it is – take a moment to feel proud of yourself and recognize that your work paid off. Don’t compare your achievements to others! You are thoroughly entitled to feeling great about yourself without the validation of others. In fact, doing something you’re not passionate about solely for the approval of other people will result in you feeling unhappy in the long-term. Do what you do for yourself!
- Stop Comparing.
- So easy to say, so hard to do. I doubt anybody in the world doesn’t compare themselves or their lives to others’ but the trick is in not letting that get to you. Let other people’s success inspire you, not discourage you or worse, make you want to compete with them. Don’t resent others for their successes.
- Express Gratitude
- Make sure you express your gratitude for the actions of people in your life, or perhaps even acknowledge your thankfulness for their presence in your life, from time to time. Not only will this make them feel appreciated but scientific studies have suggested that this can, in fact, be beneficial for your own health, so it’s a win-win situation!
I’m going to be completely honest here and admit that thankfulness doesn’t come to be naturally, although one of my ultimate goals in life is to be completely satisfied with everything I do and not feel the need to compare my successes to others’. However, I went on holiday to India this summer and it made me realize just how much I have to be grateful for that I take for granted – read about my experience here. It is so, so easy to distance ourselves from the fact that there are people in this world who lack not only those basic necessities but also those human rights and privileges that we are born and grow up with.
To begin your journey towards happiness and gratitude, comment one thing that you are grateful for today!
To read more of my writing, be sure to find me at hebahpervaiz.co.uk, or alternatively @hebahwrites on Instagram and Twitter!
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”