Lately, I’ve been having to really think about what it is I want and what I deserve. For the past few years, I have been single but I did talk to a few guys, I did have a few friends with benefits and guys I did think I could have a future with. When I think back on all these guys there is one thing that I can see that is similar to them all. I settled to what they would willingly give and I think that’s the problem. It’s not like I just take their crap or I just accept something, it’s more like… I don’t say when I want more or say when something isn’t enough.
I date guys with more of an intent to have sex or a good time, rather than to try and have a relationship with them. That’s not how it’s supposed to be or maybe it is when you’re young. Granted I’m only 22 (almost 23), but I’m starting to feel like I don’t want just sex anymore. I’m not saying that I’m really looking to be in a relationship but I defiantly wouldn’t be opposed to one either. What do I want? Happiness. I want to be happy with someone who respects me as a person, someone who will be okay with what I have to offer them and someone who will be there with me regardless of how boring and lame I can truly be.
But what do I deserve? What does every girl or guy deserve?
I want y’all to take a second and really think about what it is you deserve in a relationship. There are those basic things that everyone overlooks, or they think it’s asking too much but it’s not. So here’s what you and I deserve in a relationship:
You deserve romance.
This goes for guys and girls alike. Romance isn’t just a guy thing girls. Guys may show it differently than girls do, but none the less everyone deserves that aspect of a relationship. Whether it is a budding romance or a developed one. Girls, don’t let a guy not wine and dine you. And guys, don’t let girls just take advantage of the wining and dining. Go out on dates, light some candles, bring some flowers, show them a good time (wink wink). Romance is something that you deserve, something that everyone deserves.
You deserve to be treated equally.
I’m not talking about gender equality (even though that’s important too). What I’m talking about is in merit. If you do something, then expect that same from the other person. If they expect you to do everything but they aren’t willing to do a thing, then you have a problem. Don’t go out of your way to please someone who won’t even try to meet you halfway. It’s not worth it, and it’s not fair.
You deserve to be respected.
In the beginning of a relationship, obviously, everything will be new. So, this may be hard to tell at first but if they other person does not respect your decisions, whether it be health, job, hobbies, etc., you will probably never be truly happy. If you want to do something, and it’s not harming someone else or yourself, then there is no reason to not be respected. Not a single reason.
I won’t say that excepting these things makes it easy to find someone to be with because, honestly, it makes it harder. Sometimes the other person can be great but they just don’t fit the bill. Sometimes they aren’t willing to do these things, these basic things, and you have to walk away. Everyone should be respected, have romance and treated equally in every relationship you embark on.
Love, Megan Anne
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